Monday, May 25, 2009

Summer Focus: Nurturing my Family

I like to create goals - not that I always, or even frequently, meet the goals I set for myself.... At the beginning of every new season, I look ahead and think about what I would like to do differently; what I would like to accomplish. As summer approaches, and as I look forward to no work and no school, I can not help but consider summer goals. My main focus this summer will be my boys: Tanner and Tyler. They have patiently (sort of) endured my educational journey. This summer will be dedicated to them.

Chuck Swindoll recently spoke on nurturing our kids. I caught his 5/13/09 Insight for Living broadcast. It appears I only heard the third message of a three part series. Even so, the message spoke to me about my summer goals. Swindoll defined "nurture" as (1) helping our kids know their God-given giftedness and (2) cultivating those gifts. This has inspired me to consider and pray about Tanner and Tyler's giftedness. Tanner is 11, so his are clearer to me than Tyler's gifts. Tanner is a "behind the scenes" kind of guy. He comprehends technical things with amazing ease. He has an exceptional memory, and he is a good athlete. His teachers tell me he is very social at school and is quite funny - I think of Tanner as more shy than social.

I believe Tyler's gifts may be related to leadership and they need some serious honing - if you know what I mean! Seriously though, Tyler is perseverant and outgoing. He has some creative interests, but he doesn't express much care in pursuing them, yet. Tyler is 9 and he is more interested in emulating his brother than developing his own strengths.

This is my prayer:

God, help me to know Tanner and Tyler better; to respond to them with more sensitivity; to nurture their growth in You. Grant me the wisdom to make decisions with their best in mind. You know my strengths and weakness, dear God, nurture my parenting skills and guide me in growth.

On May 18, 2009, Lysa TerKeurst wrote of "Mommy Guilt." She hit the nail on my head! If I have areas vulnerable to Satan's attack, then mommy guilt is one of those areas. What I really liked about Lysa's blog, though, was her guidance in dealing with mommy guilt. In following her direction, I pursued reading and applying Proverbs to my diagnosis of mommy guilt. From my time in Proverbs, I am asking God for wisdom - He is the provider of wisdom. Based on the wisdom He provides, I am seeking consistency, discipline, self-control, honesty, and purposefulness in being a better mom and wife.

"Let the words of Christ, in all of their richness, live in your hearts and make you wise.... And whatever you do or say, let it be as a representative of the Lord Jesus."
Colossians 3:16-17 (NLT)

Back to the Birds


I am really not certain how many babies we have in our labor and delivery unit. The first of the eggs hatched four days ago. We started out with 6 eggs, but mommy bird has plucked two babies from the nest. This is a little sad... and gross because the babies landed in the floral arrangement next to the nest. They were still moving - last I checked, but I do not have much hope for them. :(


The babies in the nest are beginning to look a little cute. Have I mentioned that I am really not that fond of birds, in general? I did attempt to take some pictures of the outcasts, as well....

Mac & Mandy Sittin in a Tree....


Mac & Mandy are dating, so the kids think.... We are dog-sitting this weekend, and I am quite humored by the dogs' behavior.





When my kids were babies, I did not enjoy watching other kids (unless I knew the behaviors of the other kids very well) - it stressed me out (I know, I am weak).


Dogs are similar to kids except there is much less guilt involved and dogs are simply easier. Kids are much more fulfilling, joyful, intelligent, and fascinating. (Side note: I am feeling a little guilty for not having pictures and stories about my kids.... My boys won't let me take pictures of them unless they are making faces at the camera, they get mad at me when I tell funny stories about them, and Tanner has learned to Google his own name).

Watching Mac & Mandy together is cheap entertainment.

My observations:

  1. I take pride in the fact that Mandy is successfully potty-training, so every time she does her business outside, I feel a sense of personal accomplishment. When Mac goes outside, I feel a little grossed out by watching him - like when I changed another baby's diaper.... Weird, I know.
  2. As a parent, and as a dog owner, you grow accustomed to the schedule and behaviors or your own. As a girl dog, when Mandy goes out to pee, she does so once. We're done. Let's go back inside. As a boy dog, Mac pees multiple times... on EVERYTHING. It makes me laugh. After the first time Steve took Mac out, I ask him, "So, how many times did Mac pee?" to which Steve replied, "a bunch." I said, "Isn't it funny?" Steve responded with, "It's ridiculous!" Again, it makes me chuckle.... Dogs & humans, we're all funny.
  3. Mandy is the most compliant dog I know (the Lord knew what I needed to accompany the craziness of my life with 2 sons). Since I am by myself today, I did not want both dogs bolting out the door when I took one of them out to the backyard. So, as I prepared Mac to go out, I said, "Mandy, cage" to which she looked at me and obediently entered her crate. Mac looked at her like she was crazy (actually, so did I). Compliance is such a nice change of pace around here. :) Mac has learned better - he'll enter his crate only for a doggy treat... smart dog, he is.
  4. Mandy is much younger than Mac. Mac sort of endures Mandy's "puppy" antics - he is so mature, you know. When we first got Mandy, it was Mac that taught her how to bark - wish I had that on tape. When the two of them are together, it is a barking fest. I tried to bate them into barking on tape to demonstrate the fun, and they barked a little, but it wasn't so impressive. Dumb me, I replayed the footage on my camera to evaluate its use, and they went wild - thinking there were other dogs in our backyard barking.... This went on for a long time... stupid me.

Saturday, May 23, 2009

Textbooks are not what they used to be....

I began 2009 with hope and with dread acknowledging the overwhelming amount of stuff I needed to tackle between January and June. Well, it is May 23, and sooo many items have been accomplished. Thank you, Jesus! The last two items are the year-end activities at East Elementary and the completion of my master's degree. Whew - it should be cake from here to summer! I have had many, many things that I have wanted to write about during these busy days. Obviously I have tackled some of those items, but not all of them. I am looking forward to more blog writing in the days to come. I am not even sure where to start....

I work in academic support during the school year and one of our emphases is helping students develop critical thinking skills. My interest in this life skill has grown tremendously since I have been in higher education - both as a professional and as a grad student. Two of my colleagues teach a critical thinking course each spring semester, so we often discuss current events that might be useful to address in their courses illustrating the need for critical thinking. We are frequently sent complimentary copies of critical thinking textbooks to review. My supervisor (and friend/mentor) gave me the most recent text so that I could review it and provide feedback. This was an eye-opening experience!!!

Textbooks, my friends, are not what they used to be.... This particular book is entitled THINK: Critical Thinking and Logic Skills for Everyday Life. It looks really cool - soft cover, full color pictures throughout, interactive, very aesthetically pleasing - I love books!

This is a university-level textbook focused on critical thinking. The author's definition of critical thinking is: "A collection of skills we use every day that are necessary for our full intellectual and personal development" (Boss, 2010). Are you kidding me??? On a scale of Kindergarten through graduate school, this definition is at about a 3rd grade level - maybe.... In a previous post, I defined critical thinking based on Paul and Elder's (2006) definition:

"Critical thinking is the process of analyzing and assessing thinking with a view to improving it. Critical thinking presupposes knowledge of the most basic structures in thinking (elements of thought) and the most basic intellectual standards for thinking (universal intellectual standards). The key to the creative side of critical thinking (the actual improving of thought) is in restructuring thinking as a result of analyzing and effectively assessing it" (Paul & Elder, 2006, p. 6).

Paul and Elder go on to write: "Fairminded critical thinkers are intellectually humble and intellectually empathic. They have confidence in reason and intellectual integrity. They display intellectual courage and intellectual autonomy" (p. 6).

Even beyond the superficial definition of the very subject it intends to instruct, the textbook is awful! By that, I mean it is incredibly politically driven and extremely biased - AND IT IS A CRITICAL THINKING TEXTBOOK! Can you tell I am a bit worked up about this??? I could give you numerous examples, but I will stick to the one that struck me as the most ludicrous.

In discussing obstacles to critical thinking, the author presents several points of narrow-mindedness. One type of narrow-mindedness is anthropocentrism. If you don't need a dictionary for that word, I applaud you and would hate to play against you in the game of Balderdash.

Our dear friend, Merriam-Webster Online Dictionary, provides this information:

an·thro·po·cen·tric           Listen to the pronunciation of anthropocentric
Pronunciation:
\ˌan(t)-thrə-pə-ˈsen-trik\
Function:
adjective
Date:
1863
1 : considering human beings as the most significant entity of the universe 2 : interpreting or regarding the world in terms of human values and experiences
an·thro·po·cen·tri·cal·ly adverb
an·thro·po·cen·tric·i·ty noun
an·thro·po·cen·trism noun

Boss (2010) postulates that view of humans as beings created in the image of God is a hindrance to critical thinking. Really? I wonder when the last time Boss had an intellectual discussion with her dog. Don't get me wrong - I have a dog, and I truly love her; but if given the choice to save my dog or my son, my son will win by a landslide EVERY time! Similarly, when given the opportunity to choose an issue to stake my life on, issues of human life will win by a landslide EVERY time (by the way, there is more than just one human life issue) . According to Boss (2010), this belief hinders my ability to critically think; it makes me narrow-minded. I respectfully disagree.

To place human values over that of the environment is Biblical, for the Christian. But what about for the person who does not value the Bible? To this person, humans are equal to, or lesser than any other entity of the universe. What exactly does that look like? Even in the plant and animal world, there is a hierarchy. Shame on those plants and animals - it is just so... unequal. If I had a garden (which I don't), to model equality among my plants, I should not destroy the weeds. Yet, if I do not pluck the weeds by their very roots, then the weeds will destroy my vegetable plants (which, by the way, would be terribly anthropocentric of me to actually eat).

This illustration is not so different from the environmentalist agenda. I recently watched a news report where farms were sitting in a dead state because some environmentalists shut down the irrigation system in order to protect some kind of minnow. The outcomes are: no crops for the farmers, significant job loss for the farmers and the farm workers, higher prices for consumers (some with significantly less income due to job loss), and a need to import crops from other countries. Seems a bit illogical to me... just to save a minnow, but, oops! I am showing my anthropocentric tendencies. Sorry about that!

The other extreme is humans taking advantage of the environment to the point of devastating it - which is clearly the motivation of my many green friends. Don't get me wrong, I am thrilled to be green! I value the environment, and I live a fairly simple lifestyle. However, my motivation is less for green purposes, and more for the joy of simplicity; the joy of creation; and the joy of living life to the fullest - though I really value air-conditioning, washing machines, vehicles, and modern medicine, too.

At least one bottom line here is that all people have some sort of foundational system upon which we base life. To say one does not, or that it is all relative, is just not true - one can not live from day to day, and make any kind of decision without some belief system to base one's decisions on. Call me anthropocentric, but my belief system is staked on being created in the image of God. I am separate from nature (and even above it), yet I am responsible to respect nature as God would. However, human life will always be prioritized in my belief system - unless my critical thinking endeavors, under the teachings of the Holy Spirit, lead me otherwise.

Psalm 139:13-14 (NIV)
"For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well."

Psalm 139:23-24 (NIV)
"Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting."

References

Boss, J.A. (2010). Think: Critical thinking and logic skills for everyday life. New York: McGraw Hill.

Paul, R., & Elder, L. (2006). A guide for educators to critical thinking competency standards: Standards, principles, performance indicators, and outcomes with a critical thinking master rubric. Dillon Beach, CA: The Foundation for Critical Thinking.

Friday, May 22, 2009

It's for the Birds!


Due to wonderful sunny weather, my pictures are not great for viewing our babies, but a couple of the eggs have hatched. This our front door; the birds are nesting in the floral arrangement. Note the window for our viewing pleasure.

Tuesday, May 19, 2009

A Goal for 2009 - May 16-31

My thoughts are all over the place these days, so the 10th verse towards "A Goal for 2009" is sensible:

When I said, "My foot is slipping," your love, O Lord, supported me. When anxiety was great within me, your consolation brought joy to my soul.

Psalm 94: 18-19 (NIV)

I have quite a lot my mind - my own stressors, and those of others near me.

Lysa TerKeurst wrote of "Mommy Guilt" recently - I definitely have that.... She also wrote about eating healthy - I have a problem with that, too.

I've been spending lots of time thinking about a potential change - praying for God's wisdom and clear guidance.

Who hasn't been thinking about the economy and its affects on ourselves, our friends, our country, our world?

I have four more weeks of graduate school - lots and lots to complete between now and then....

The tremendous, and sometimes overwhelming, needs of others....
  • My dear grandparents;
  • Little Ella, who was burned by hot tea on Sunday and is now in the hospital;
  • Children and families in third world countries, and in our own communities;
  • MVNU students leaving for the summer not knowing how they will afford to return in the fall;
  • Two friends who have recently broken their legs - right before summer fun;
  • Several families in need of selling their homes;
  • My son, Tyler, and his physical healing;
  • Friends in MV who are facing incredible adversity right now.
When I said, "My foot is slipping," your love, O Lord, supported me. When anxiety was great within me, your consolation brought joy to my soul.

Psalm 94: 18-19 (NIV)

Lord, May it be to me as You have said.... Your will be done on earth as it is in heaven.

Wednesday, May 13, 2009

We're having babies!!!



I have something fun to share! Two months ago we had a bird building a nest in the perfect spot for easy viewing. We had lots of fun watching the eggs hatch, the babies grow, and the birds fly the coup. After the fact, of course, I realized that I should have taken pictures to document the cycle for my blog.... Mental note to self, take pictures next year.

Well, out of the blue, another bird has made our empty nest her new home - just a week after our previous occupants flew away.... Is that strange? I guess she heard we had some room in our inn. I don't know, but now we have 6 little eggs to watch. The previous mother bird laid only 4 eggs - and the nest was quite full as those birds grew. The should be interesting....